Real Deal Power

Slide10Many female leaders mistakenly try to balance the shortcomings of dominant leadership by “over-relying” on their passive leadership tools such as empathy and collaboration. But getting people together to figure out what their Primary Vision is and what it needs, can easily lead to more confusion.

It can also weaken the power of women who may be misplacing their emotional intelligence when it’s their practical intelligence that will really make the difference.

However, a new style leader needs to demonstrate their Real Deal Power and cut through the confusion by constantly “simplifying the complexities” that are presented.

  • She is able to articulate the big picture and the necessary priorities using an array of simple directive statements, not commands or demands, but rather discerning and objective distinctions.
  • She always links her actions to the urgent needs of the project at hand and the culture of the company or team.
  • She can articulate the strategic plans of the project as clearly as a CEO.
  • She states what must be done immediately and has a question such as, “Does it make sense to you all that we replace our program development reviews with short, biweekly feedback sessions since people need a constant flow of coaching to stay focused on emerging priorities?”

And it’s wise to remember not to open any of these clarifying questions with a “Why”, because this can often imply that there is a level of judgment present and may bring about even more confusion.

Slide14This technique of making recommendations in the form of a question consistently raises her position of effective power. Her questions frame the discussion and contain compelling “if-then and what next” logic. It also helps her not fall into the trap of either complaining about or insisting on a change she wants to make.

This technique is not trivial.

There is plenty of research that confirms when women try to exert power using the same techniques as dominant males they actually reduce their power and influence and become labeled as “overly aggressive or worse…”

To sum it up, if we want to increase our power girls, we need to simplify confusion, clarify priorities, and lead people to follow us by asking them the appropriate “what’s next” or “where next” questions.

Above all adopt a real deal leadership approach. Don’t wait for orders and don’t spend your life trying to achieve other people’s goals.

Your ideas and goals are more than likely the Real Deal… So, You Go Girl!

Oh yeah… Its Christmas

Well it is that time of the year again… Christmas.

Some people love it, others hate it and others just do it.

Which category do you fall under?

I like to view my Christmas as a sacred time, a time to celebrate all I have achieved in terms of correcting and transforming my life.

The Christmas Tree in our home is likened to the Tree of Life and its decorations are seen as symbolic gestures, which mark different eras in our time together as a family. The trimming of the tree and making the Christmas Pudding are a tradition that are always upheld with much delight.

Of course both of these practices are common place in many homes, and can often lose meaning, so for me I feel it is important to add our own family culture to the mix. We can slip into the empty habit of just doing a job and moving on to the next task at hand. That is indeed the way of our busy world. But Christmas marks a time in the year to truly create, celebrate and contribute.

I encourage you to embrace Christmas with delight:

Create the space in your life to be creative.

Celebrate and share the joy in your heart with your family, friends and community.

Contribute in ways that add value, come to the table with a gift that really counts; your “generosity of spirit”. It is worth so much more than anything you can buy. Start a heartfelt conversation and initiate acts of kindness where judgement would usually be.

These simple unity based principles are what Christmas is really about… The birth of the Holy Child is alive in every human being. And Christmas is a wonderful time to celebrate our life together as children of our Holy Mother, Planet Earth.

We can be restful and respectful as we unite, and in this sacred union we are reminded that we are The Holy Family.

And would like to also add that the video below of Happy Christmas by John and Yoko was released in 1971 – And we do indeed need to be living the mantra “war is over, if you want it!”.

Time and change are our constant reminder that nothing stays the same. They bring home the heartfelt memories of what really matter to us in our life.

May PEACE be your heartfelt intention this Christmas and everyday. We can use our collective consciousness to create PEACE, before we charge our glasses and say Merry Christmas, perhaps we could share a heart to heart prayer for real PEACE on EARTH.

I choose to be the REAL DEAL this Christmas and Unite My Light where ever I can for PEACE….

What do you wear and share?

Beautiful Photographs of Madonna in New York City 1982 (18)

Sublime Style 

Fashion is nothing to do with sex, fame or status and everything to do with your Attitude and Creativity – The way one presents to others is only ever related to the person wearing it. Indeed, we are what we wear – as we are what we share.

E.G. Ellames

Are you connected?

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Create COMMUNITY

Community is where you build your style of leadership. It is through your community that you see how your vision and talents as a new style leader benefit others. By creating a community you are enrolling others to support your leadership and vision as well as their own.

Community needs leadership.

Is life meant to be soft, hard or fun?

#2: Express COURAGE

Don’t wait to feel courageous. Act courageously even when you feel it the least. Only when you act in the face of fear do you validate your true bravery and boldness. Be audacious in accepting challenges. Calculate your risks to help reduce apprehension, then defy your fear and step forward.

Courage Cultivates Leadership.

 

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elizabeth.ellames@ozemail.com.au

Letʼs talk money.

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MONEY…

  • Maybe you want it real bad.
  • Maybe youʼre scared because you donʼt have enough of it.
  • Maybe it dictates how you feel each and every day.

And maybe, you’re giving it way too much power!!!

What if, as a real deal entrepreneur or visionary you can create an entirely new relationship with money.

One that is based in Love, Giving, Service, And Trust; because these are the energies that will allow you to thrive. For example, think about money like a personal relationship.

If you were always scared, holding back, and waiting for something better to occur, how long do you think that relationship would last?

Or what if you didnʼt like it that much and said things like “Itʼs not that important to me,” how long do you think that person would stick around? You got it….not long!

So the question is always: “How do I create a better relationship with money?” And for me that answer is simple, because itʼs the same formula to change anything:

1) First acknowledge that you need to change (it always starts with awareness and taking personal responsibility). You canʼt do anything differently until you embrace where youʼre at.

2) Find a mentor/teacher/guide who you trust, respect, and can learn from…and then stop at nothing to be with them. Why try to struggle and figure it out on your own when there are so many people who can help you get to where you want to go faster and with more ease.

3) Shift your consciousness and things will change naturally, organically, and on their own… because consciousness creates your reality.

So, since you have found your way to me to be your guide in this moment, let me start by giving you some real concrete tools to create a powerful and new relationship with money.

To start, let me ask you this question:

What happens when you decide to give away more love?

Thatʼs right, you get more love! When you walk around with the intention to share your love, people feel it and return it with their own energy and attention….right?

So if you have been holding onto your money So Tightly and not investing in the resources, training, tools, or guidance that will help you create more money, how on earth do you expect your paradigm to change.

Because let me bold: it wont !

When the energy of trust comes into the equation. Because you will think to yourself: “How on earth could I give away my last remaining dollars when I donʼt know where or how it will come back to me?”

You must trust my friend….trust!

Yes, it will feel scary. Yes, you will doubt. Yes, people will try to convince you to play safe and hold back (”you can get that for free somewhere else”) and KNOW that you will get exactly what you need when you decide to say YES and follow your heart.

And because I can hear the critics barking already, let me be clear. Iʼm not saying that you should give away all of your money just to practice letting money flow.

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What I AM saying is that if you want to make more money, itʼs important to learn the tools and knowledge that will help you do it. If deep in your soul, you know that a person, event, training, coach, or whatever, will help you get to the next level, then you must move mountains to make it happen.

Thatʼs when you let the money flow.

So to put this into action today, allow yourself to “invest” in something that you believe will help you progress, grow, and evolve.

Maybe youʼve been wanting to learn something new – register for it.

Maybe youʼve been wanting to hire that coach – do it.

Maybe youʼve been looking to make that move into a better office, go get it.

What is that thing you want or need to do?… take that inspired action and make it real today.

  • DREAM IT
  • CREATE IT
  • FEEL IT
  • LIVE IT

Show the universe that you are ready by taking that bold step forward to let money flow in your life.

And above all else, TRUST that you will be taken care of because you deserve to have a life of joy, fulfillment, and purpose.

Know yourself, discover your purpose is my motto in life… because when you know yourself, you Trust yourself.

So if you need more clarity around your personal brand and purpose, take that next step and contact me.

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Elizabeth Ellames

Email. elizabeth.ellames@ozemail.com.au

Mobile. 040 330 9696