Give it to me NOW!

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.  

This is the number one mantra used in Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and a great tool for those struggling with any emotional addictions or substance addictions.  

 

Let’s have a think about this All the reasons why we cant respond to our heart’s desire are basically not true, and only feed our emotional addictions or our need for control… which we often hide behind.

Our ‘collective shadow-side’ has been running amuck for a long time and needs some serious transformation. We can either keep feeding its addiction or acknowledge its presence and decide to transform it into its full GLORY.

New Style Leadership is a vehicle of liberation and illumination Not a game of comparing and competition.

Wouldn’t it be great if we could collectively “correct and transform” the following;

THESE ARE THE FOUR MAIN EMOTIONAL ADDICTIONS.

CONFLICT

SUFFERING

WITH-HOLD

ENABLING

Most people live with one or all of these addictions every day…. we can use this information to keep stuck in our old story/addiction or we can use it as a driver toward a new style of leadership.

Let’s transform our psyche from FADE to FLOURISH

So, if we have an addictive nature (and I believe all humans have) let’s change our addiction to one that works positively for all of us.

We could turn our “re-active impulse” into our soul’s “creative impulse”: Our Life Purpose

You know, that thing we just can’t live without… let our Obedient Heart be our compass of JOY… let joy become our fix, our next hit.

I have a burning desire to activate as many people as possible, so they can truly prosper in their glowing authenticity.

If this is my creative impulse, my positive addiction, bring it on… I want it now, give it to me, give it to me NOW!

What is it that’s driving your passionate desires?

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Oh yeah… Its Christmas

Well it is that time of the year again… Christmas.

Some people love it, others hate it and others just do it.

Which category do you fall under?

I like to view my Christmas as a sacred time, a time to celebrate all I have achieved in terms of correcting and transforming my life.

The Christmas Tree in our home is likened to the Tree of Life and its decorations are seen as symbolic gestures, which mark different eras in our time together as a family. The trimming of the tree and making the Christmas Pudding are a tradition that are always upheld with much delight.

Of course both of these practices are common place in many homes, and can often lose meaning, so for me I feel it is important to add our own family culture to the mix. We can slip into the empty habit of just doing a job and moving on to the next task at hand. That is indeed the way of our busy world. But Christmas marks a time in the year to truly create, celebrate and contribute.

I encourage you to embrace Christmas with delight:

Create the space in your life to be creative.

Celebrate and share the joy in your heart with your family, friends and community.

Contribute in ways that add value, come to the table with a gift that really counts; your “generosity of spirit”. It is worth so much more than anything you can buy. Start a heartfelt conversation and initiate acts of kindness where judgement would usually be.

These simple unity based principles are what Christmas is really about… The birth of the Holy Child is alive in every human being. And Christmas is a wonderful time to celebrate our life together as children of our Holy Mother, Planet Earth.

We can be restful and respectful as we unite, and in this sacred union we are reminded that we are The Holy Family.

And would like to also add that the video below of Happy Christmas by John and Yoko was released in 1971 – And we do indeed need to be living the mantra “war is over, if you want it!”.

Time and change are our constant reminder that nothing stays the same. They bring home the heartfelt memories of what really matter to us in our life.

May PEACE be your heartfelt intention this Christmas and everyday. We can use our collective consciousness to create PEACE, before we charge our glasses and say Merry Christmas, perhaps we could share a heart to heart prayer for real PEACE on EARTH.

I choose to be the REAL DEAL this Christmas and Unite My Light where ever I can for PEACE….

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Dear Ones…

To those who are here working to create a better world, we stand in shock horrified at the attacks on Paris, I hear and feel the pain of my dear friends and family… as my Soul courageously witnesses my own human heart weeping and breaking open with deep sorrow. I write these words because I don’t know what else to do.

My spirit is so sad, but strong, because I know I must share my promise to humanity. I watched the Sun come up this morning and reflected on the fact that we are one Planet; warmed by our one Sun and we are given the opportunity to connect to our feelings through our one heart in our one body. And that all these things that appear to be separate are in fact all connected.

That is why I feel sad and strong at the same time, even though I am thousands of miles away from Paris, I can still feel the sorrow and urgency for change and healing – simply because we are all connected. And my heart is breaking because my Spirit is asking me to open my heart even more and allow more love to pour forth on to the world.

My breaking heart is calling me to never, never give up on the power of Love – And never give up my Freedom.

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THE ARTIST – Creates COMMUNITY/TRIBE

Some other choices in this category are Designer, Painter, Musician and Poet. Through your expression of life as an Artist you create tribes or followers that form community. This is how you grow your style of leadership. It is through your followers/community that you can see how your visions and artistic talents as a new style leader benefit others. By simply sharing your talent, art or craft, your community then starts to enroll others to support your leadership and vision as their own.

Community Needs Your Leadership.                                                                    

Is your job the same as your purpose?

Our Collective Vision Broadens And Strengthens Our Horizons…

Practice CO-CREATION

Invest in your own work and invest your time being with other co-creators. Develop innovations and systems that build connectivity. Find joy in your community efforts that you share with others because your life purpose is expressed through your ability to co-create.

Good relationships, build good leadership.

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What does being “In The Moment” really mean?

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Today I made a fantastic distinction around Diversity = Dynamic

One of the challenges of sharing ideas in family, team, and community – is we can experience control or get upset and regularly come away feeling confused by another person’s strong point of view around systems, a project or start-ups. I believe this is attributed to our different styles of thinking, not learning. We each go through our own unique thought process to come up with our interpretation of a situation.

These interpretations are expressed by the way our personal neuro pathways are fired up in the brain; an array of electrical impulses and connections that help you to express yourself. And yes, I know we have all heard about all the different learning styles, but this is different.

What I am talking about here is “how do we stay present with each other without being dominated by one person’s particular thinking process?” I believe the reason for all the discord or control in relationships, be they personal or professional and even cultural and community are due to this very thing.

I term this behaviour ‘the thinking wars’ – Dominance = Disconnect.

However, where we need to move to as a species is – Diversity = Dynamic

And of course this all sounds good on paper or on a wiz bang power point, but how do we do it in real time, real life? We must be willing to cross the bridge with one another, we literally have to drop out of our thinking for a moment or two and connect to the intelligence of our heart.

If each person present can accept that the only way they can truly understand each other and make a valuable contribution, is through a genuine heart to heart connection, this is in fact what empowers people. Because the real power is when and where lasting trust is built. Truth is, we are never going to really understand the way another person thinks because we are not that person.

Moreover, we most certainly can connect with each other through our aligned values, which are born from the heart.

Our aligned values are what make up the unbreakable connections, which can form this powerful and effective Diversity = Dynamic bridge.

The new wave of relationship in business is emerging: where people adopt a very different, but progressive model of teamwork… Because it will be through our surrender to the power of the heart, that we will experience the benefits of cordial collaboration, social synergy, cohesive community and contributing more than money.

So, my dear humans take heed…

HEART to HEART CONNECTION is the currency of the FUTURE. 

The great news is, we all have one!

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Who knows you, really?

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Become A Social Entrepreneur Connector 

Home truth coming your way… I haven’t always been the best at the whole networking thing. I use to think, if I always do my best the business will come. Well that does work to some degree, but the truth is good networking does work and great networking rocks!!!

The thought of networking at conferences and industry events can make some social entrepreneurs a little bored, twitchy or even nervous to say the least. But if you go into it feeling that uncomfortable, your results will be mediocre. Attending “Great Connecting Events” are a major part of being a successful entrepreneur, so it’s in your best interest to get being really, really good at it…

Its time to learn how to be a spectacular “Tribe-Talker”

Here is a simple format to help you make valuable connections and find ways to unleash your expressive, dynamic and passionate tribe-talker within.

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1. Ideas = Intention

Identify your intention before you even get to your event.

What are you looking to get out of the event?
Are you there to generate leads?
What kind of people do you want to meet?
Which speakers do you want to connect with?

2. Integrity = Identity

Leave your intrusive elevator pitch at home.

Remember you’re not there to close a sale. Avoid selling yourself and telling everyone why your product or service is the best. Instead, ask everyone you speak to… “Is there anything I can do to help your operation.” This generous approach will leave an impression that ensures they’ll answer your phone call or email after the event.

This display of “Generosity of Spirit” starts to build your relationship for future discussions. Don’t forget to follow up with everyone. Make contact within 72 hours of the event. This keeps your encounter fresh in peoples minds.

3. Passion = Purpose

Don’t sound robotic. Let your true personality shine through. Be authentic.

Building 4 or 5 meaningful connections is better than collecting 30 business cards from people you wont speak to again. Sprouting off your script-like spiel might get you a business card, but probably just to make you go away.

Take time to be fully present in your conversations and remember your follow up time after the event is important. Those “being totally present conversations” can often lead to valuable business opportunities.

4. Leadership = Leverage

Be heard and seen.

Nobody is going to remember you unless you are engaging. If you are at a conference make an effort to ask at least one question during the Q&A session following each presentation. Not an empty question with no real purpose – it needs to be an interaction of authenticity and intelligent. This is a great way to get on the radar of everyone in the room. People will approach you to connect and will initiate conversation. If you seem even a little savvy around a topic, you become attractive, a magnet that can pull in contacts from many directions.

5. Diversity = Dynamic

Team up with a people who compliment your flaws and strengths.

It’s always easier when you have others on your team – it gives you extra confidence and if you select your networking partners carefully you can make sure you are equipped with people who make up for your shortcomings.

For instance, if you are a bit of a risk taker or change agent partner up with someone that is a people pleaser and mentor. Let them open up some conversations and introduce you to bring it home and make new connections. And equally, you can support them when need be, with your unique strengths.

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You attend networking events and conferences to make valuable connections, right? Use this simple format to make sure you make the most out of every event you attend.

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